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My Personal Story About Courage And Empowerment

As the year comes to a close, I wanted to take a moment and share a personal story with you about courage and empowerment.

In 1995 at the age of 23, I decided to marry my first and only boyfriend. The day after we married, I knew I'd made the wrong decision.

But if I'm totally honest, I knew I was going to make the wrong decision long before this moment. Marriage for me was the only decent and acceptable way I could leave my family home. Living with a controlling parent and feeling disempowered, I thought that this was going to be my one and only chance of leaving home while still maintaining the "Good Catholic Girl" image that I was moulded into.

During my nine year marriage, I was reminded every day that I was not an equal. Although I was scaling new heights in my corporate career, traveling the globe and still doing all the household duties, it still wasn't enough to be considered equal. I'd felt that all too familiar feeling of disempowerment.

In December 2004, I attended a week-long live-in leadership course in Sydney. During one of the activities, I partnered up with my colleague Kathleen to practice a technique. It was Friday and the last day of the course. After several intense days with early starts and late finishes, my barriers were low. I'd tried so hard all week to keep it together. As Kathleen and I set out to apply our learning, I broke down. I told Kathleen that at 5.30 pm today I would be meeting my then husband and calling it quits after nine tough years.

During this long, intense and reflective week, I decided that disempowerment was not for me. No more would I be willing to allow anyone to make me feel this way anymore. I was done with disempowerment.

That evening I leaned into courage.

That evening I discovered the feeling of empowerment.

And that evening I learned that I didn't need approval from anyone else except myself.

I wanted to share this personal story with you so you get a glimpse into my past and see why I am so fiercely driven to EMPOWER WOMEN.

When I serve a client, I realise that what I offer her is COURAGE, I offer her HONESTY and the SPACE to REFLECT and digest her life in an environment where judgment doesn't exist. I help her connect the dots of who she is and how she wants to show up in this world. She too offers me an incredible opportunity to learn and feel what courage and empowerment means to me.

This empowered state of mind, allowed me to follow a new life path, allowed me to break away from the comfort zone of my corporate career, start my own business and purchase my first official property of my own.

No decision felt too big or overwhelming anymore. I realised that I had all the answers BUT only if I was prepared to REALLY listen to the whispers inside and around me.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” Aristotle

There is nothing more beautiful than witnessing and experiencing authenticity. It's not about perfection or having it all figured out. For me, its the PROCESS of self-discovery, self-love, and self-forgiveness over a lifetime and no one, nowhere gets to say who I am but me.

So today I'm sharing with you my feelings, my failings and my victories and I encourage you to share yours too because in that process you will become more of who you were meant to be.

'What is real and what is lasting is who you are and what you were meant to be, no one can take that away from you". Oprah

The most important journey that I think all of us will go through is the journey within ourselves, to find the truth, who we are and what makes us happy. So as you wrap up your work projects for 2017, take some time these Christmas holidays and think about your journey and explore project YOU.

Here's to living with courage, connection and purpose.


P.S I've made a short video celebrating all the incredible women who have come into my life in 2017. Click here to see it.

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